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I recently passed the two-year marker date of Peter’s death, and looked back at my blogs which reflect my roller-coaster-of-a-journey through grief.  My writing chronicles the ups and downs [...]

“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.” -Benjamin Franklin Worry is defined as “giving way to anxiety or unease.” Worry is allowing one’s mind to [...]

When you are in the process of grieving a loss of any kind, you must avoid looking ahead into the future.  You are so devastated by the loss that you cannot envision the life that might have [...]

“You must remember this A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh. The fundamental things apply As time goes by.” Herman Hupfeld from the movie Casablanca I was always a sigher.  I sighed in [...]

When Peter died, almost two years ago, I openly welcomed all the help I could get.  I went to a grief therapist and learned tools for coping with the daily onslaught of bottomless and relentless [...]

“I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn.” ― Anne Frank   Our Western values are not culturally equipped for grief.  Death is such a taboo that we call [...]

Every time my husband, Peter and I traveled together, we would settle into our seats on the airplane.  As the plane took off, he would lace my much smaller fingers cozily into his sizable [...]

We think of the word “normal” as conforming to a standard or pattern.  Normal is what is expected; SOP (standard operating procedure). “The New Normal” is defined as “a previously unfamiliar or [...]

“If you’re looking for sympathy you’ll find it between shit and syphilis in the dictionary.” ― David Sedaris The terms empathy and sympathy are often used interchangeably, but they [...]

After Peter died, I lost my desire to be creative in the kitchen.  I went out to eat a lot, but just didn’t have the chops (insert cringe at pun here) to cook dinner for myself. As a food writer, [...]